 Work for full equality between men and women in society and in personal relationships.
 Examine the ways we legitimize male violence.
 Understand that what it means to “be a man” is defined by society.
 Start on the playground.
 Unplug boys and girls from violent media.
 Promote good sport etiquette. Hire coaches committed to nonviolence.
 Do not use “like a girl” or “like a women” as a put-down.
 Encourage athletic activities that involve cooperation, fun, physical health and camaraderie.
 Teach children how to settle conflicts peacefully.
 Recognize that verbal and emotional cruelty is also violence.
 Understand that love does not involve control or ownership.
 Remember: anger is a feeling; violence is an action.
 Do not express feelings with fists.
 Teach boys and girls effective, respectful ways to express frustration, sadness and anger.
 We are all role models. Be nurturing, loving and caring.
 Do not belittle, humiliate or hit children.
 Know that fathers who are active in their children’s lives make good dads.
 Advocate for anti-violence laws and enforcement.
 Recognize that the availability of guns increases lethal violence.
 Ask local and elected officials to take action.
 Teach your daughter that respect is just a minimum. Teach your sons the same.
 Teach boys and girls to communicate clearly in relationships and that “no” really does mean “no”.
 Question rape myths.
 Recognize that alcohol and drugs feed violence.
 Never excuse behavior by saying “boys will be boys”.
 Confront homophobia – it pushes men into being tough.
 Do not use “gay” as a put-down.
 Recognize that individual violence is supported by social systems based on power and control.
 Understand war’s effect on women and children and men. Resist glorifying violence.
 Create new stories, myths and heroes.
 Praise gentle boys.
 Encourage children to trust their instincts; believe victims and children.
 Support the work of shelters in your community.